
What does an elephant and a teenager have in common? Alex and Brett Harris tries to answer this question in their book “Do Hard Things”. According to the Harris brothers, domesticated elephants are taken away from their mothers at a very young age and shackled to a tree by their handlers. The baby elephant learns very quickly that it is pointless to struggle because ultimately, the elephant is going to hurt itself when it tried to free itself from the iron shackles - the baby elephant is broken. The handlers then use a piece of twine to tie the elephant down subsequently. Feeling something attached to its leg, the elephant is resigned to the fact that it is bound and no longer struggles to free itself.
This is where elephants and teenagers collide. The Harris brothers propose that teenagers are stuck in that same rut as the elephants - they believe that they are powerless. All the elephant needs to do is move forward and the twine is going to break. Our teenagers are as such. They see themselves as a generation that is powerless to make a change.
Why this attitude? Partly because of the low expectations that today’s society has placed on them. They are deemed as the “irresponsible” group of people. Interestingly, the word ‘teenager’ is a newly coined term that did not exist a hundred years ago. This means that there wasn’t a ‘period’ of time where children were allowed to be young adults and yet at the same time to behave like children. Children a hundred years ago were not allowed to act irresponsibly, they had to grow into adulthood.
Imagine a ten year old in the past, waking up early to do his household chores before he goes off to work. Or a fifteen year old officer serving on board a warship, tasked to pilot the newly captured brigantine back to England. Was it because that that generation was better of in terms of capability or was it because they were allowed to grow into adulthood.
As educators, we believe in spiral education. We start from a young age and we progressively increased the intensity and rigor. Yet somehow, we seem to have forgotten to empower our children in the other areas. We are quick to conclude that they ‘cannot’ and we take the opportunity away from them.
I recently celebrated my birthday with a surprise party and it was orchestrated by one of my pupils. Yes, a mere eleven year old made the necessary arrangements, spoke to the necessary people and rallied the class. I was definitely pleasantly surprised. After mouthing my thanks to the class, I turned to the mastermind and inquired how he managed to get the cake to school - it was raining hard that morning. He shrugged and replied, “I carried it in the rain and placed it in the staffroom refrigerator. After all, the most dangerous place is the safest place.” At the moment, my eyes were opened wide and I chuckled.
I ask myself today, how have I empowered this generation. Have I “spiralled” for them what it means to grow into adulthood in their day to day activities. Have I started them with the small things in life, that will prepare them to meet the challenges of adulthood?

